What can we do? How can we help? Part 5

While surrounded by loved ones it is still shockingly easy to feel completely alone! Emotional Support is much needed, and often offered and still not fully received. Just being there consistently, is a huge way to support. It helps remind us that we aren’t fully alone and keeps the door open for us to feel comfortable when needs arise, like when a kid forgets their lunch or they need to be picked up from school when the minor and more major emergencies arise we reach out to those that are there offering support. Here are a few ways you can support emotionally:

  •  Text
    • Texting helps me feel connected when I’m not always available to talk on the phone or hang out. Even a text that just says “Love you, thinking of you” can help propel me through the day. Travis rarely responds, but the texts still mean a lot to him, just to know you care and are thinking is a nice sentiment.
  • Phone Calls/Voice Mails
    • Phone calls can sometimes be difficult because once I get home I’m managing so many things. The kids need a lot and I only have a few hours before bedtime to manage everything. If I answer, that means I can talk and I’d love to! If I don’t, then I’m busy, didn’t hear it, or maybe I’m cuddling with Travis or my kids and that’s my priority at that moment. If you are just calling to let someone know you are thinking of them and are available if they want to talk…leave that kind of voicemail! Please don’t be offended if they don’t answer or don’t call back! It’s not personal (at least it isn’t in my case!), they have a lot on their plate, so keep it on your plate to try again another time!
  • Hugs “Hugging is a silent way of saying….you matter to me.”
    • You would be surprised how much a good hug means! Not everyone likes hugs so this one could be tricky and if you don’t know the person well it could just be awkward! For me, it’s a safe place for just a moment!20161023_211712
  • When you commit to helping – do it! “You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.”
    • There have been people who have said they want to help, I asked for some specifics, and they were excited to have something and then never did it and so I had to ask someone else. It’s okay to say no, but if you say yes, then follow through! If you really never intend on helping, please do not give the empty offers!
  • Be Positive! “If you cannot be positive, then at least, be quiet.” – Joel Esteen
    • If you can do nothing else, try to bring joy and peace into their lives. I don’t mean that everything has to be upbeat, the mood can be somber. Do not try to force joy, and it’s not necessary to put a positive spin on everything. However, for me, everything seems like a struggle…nothing is easy anymore, and so to have others add contention and drama to my life makes everything that much harder. If nothing else, don’t make things worse! 🙂kids
  • Team Travis (Facebook Group) “Alone we can do so little, together we can do so much.” Helen Keller
    • We have a facebook group where we post needs, as they arise. This is separate from our Travis Strong page, which is for updating on his condition. Team Travis is a great and easy place to post needs, we typically post needs for rides, previously we used it for babysitting, and even when our place flooded my brother jumped on and let everyone know and as a result I had help show up. It’s great to have one central location to post needs!

You can read my previous ideas here: Part 1Part 2Part 3, and Part 4. I am sure there are so many more ideas that I am missing. I know there have been a few that have prayed to know our needs, and have been able to lift our burden because of answers to prayers. Everyone has different needs, but Heavenly Father knows what those needs are and wants us to help each other. My girly sprained her foot last week and to watch her brothers get the door, carry her crutches, and serve her brought me so much joy. I am sure it is the same for our Father in Heaven who watches his children suffer, and I can imagine his joy to see us serve each other. After seven years we have certainly been the recipient of so much service and kindness, I’m so grateful for our support while we fight cancer.

Copyright © Stacy Fredericks 2017, All rights reserved

3 thoughts on “What can we do? How can we help? Part 5

  1. Stacy❣
    You and Travis and the kids are loved❤️ We pray for you always. Wish we could remove this cup from you 😪


    1. Thank you, Myrna! Love you guys, was going through messages the other day and found one talking about our youngest asking to have you watch him since you are family was his explanation. With him in school, the needs have changed, but he sure enjoyed his special time with you!


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