What can we do? How can we help? Part 2

Those going through cancer and supporting a spouse through cancer cannot do it alone. It is hard to ask for help, but I love and appreciate all of those who have been there for us here I gave ideas for food, packages, letters, and notes, below are a few more ideas of ways to support those going through any sort of trial. These things have been a support to me, Travis, and the kids!

  • Playdates for the kiddos “Children are not a distraction from more important work. They are the most important work! – C.S. Lewis”
    • Dealing with cancer is incredibly heavy for the kids, and so they really need a distraction sometimes. Play dates give that distraction without the feeling of being babysat because something bad is happening. One huge benefit to this, is the kids have established others who love them and are there to support them.14068072_10209747797481635_2985495761703573660_n
      • My Mom and my sister hang out with the kids every week. It’s more than just allowing them to come over to their house, which is also okay too, but they play with them and plan activities and take them places too. My kids always look forward to time hanging out with my family!
      • Random play dates are also very helpful. If you have kids and can include a couple more text/call and ask if their kids would like to join.
      • Park adventures. My brother and sister-in-law attempted to go to as many 13417494_10154299553073385_4789830330949403954_nparks as possible while Travis was at chemo one day, I think they hit seven!
      • My brother and brother-in-law took the kid’s sledding one day, while we got the house clean.
      • My brother-in-law was taking his little boy swimming and called and took my 3 with them as well.
      • When there are long periods that the kids will be out of school, additional help is appreciated. My sister came from Washington state and stayed for a week to play with my kids during Spring Break. It was so wonderful to not have to worry about them, and to be able to work and provide for our family still.
      • When possible, try to have the kids be unplugged. Save that activity for when Mommy and Daddy need a break and can’t play with them.
  • Vacation!! “A change in latitude would help my attitude.”
    • Obviously, this will not be one that just anyone can do, but if it’s possible, setting up a few days for the family to get away is heaven. We were sent to Disneyland by an anonymous donor and it was the greatest escape from reality.20160202_104346
  • 12 Days of Christmas “Good tidings of comfort and Joy!”1503841_10151864241902759_2107480579_n
    • This can only be done around Christmas, but we had this done for us and it brightened our Christmas and gave the kids something to look forward to every day. It doesn’t have to be something super fancy or expensive or even correlate with the 12 days!
  • Offer rides “All you need is a great friend and a full tank of gas”
    • Last year my neighborhood included my kids in a car pool to get them to and from school every day. This year my neighbor helps make sure they get to school, she has even told me I can send them over hours before school if I need to. It is such a relief to head to work knowing someone is making sure they get there.
    • Travis needs lots of rides to doctors, and having a bunch of different people available takes the strain off of any one person.

I’ll post a few more next week, so stay tuned! 🙂

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