Creating Memories

Recently, we were given an amazing opportunity to create memories in Disneyland. Some anonymous angels gave us a trip and we were free to do with it what we wanted, and we chose to create memories!

We were very blessed to be given a very thoroughly thought out gift. All expenses were paid for and they thought through all the details of traveling. I’m a planner at heart, I like to plan ahead and I like to be prepared for everything. So, I started researching blogs of the best way to make every second count at Disneyland. My goal was to create a “battle plan” to get all the fast passes and determine which direction to go first, it got overwhelming trying to make sure it was going to be perfect! So we then decided to wing it, which seemed a little horrifying to me at first because I am someone who creates an excel spreadsheet for packing. We were just going to go with the flow for the vacation. My mind filled with so many things that could go wrong, but I committed to doing it!

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Life isn’t fair!!

Life isn’t fair! How I wish I would’ve understood this concept when I was  younger! I can remember arguing with my parents many times about it not being fair, and them patiently teaching me, and I still remember thinking that it wasn’t fair because they just didn’t understand. See, I knew how to make life fair, I just needed everyone else to get on board. I was a kid, but I knew it all, or so I thought!

Now I have a passionate 10-year-old who thinks life isn’t fair, which is a fair AandTcomplaint since it’s not fair! And just like I once thought, he believes it’s possible!

During one of our spirited debates my son broke down in tears telling me I just didn’t understand, I just needed to listen. How I wished I could have just transferred my understanding to his head at that moment. I wish he wouldn’t have to go through life worrying about whether or not life is fair! I’ve tried to teach him, just like my parents did with me, but he’s not ready to understand, like I wasn’t when I was younger.

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The First Post

There is so much pressure to write a legendary first post, which I could never do! I was inspired by my very talented mother to start something of my own. She has the ability to take anything and make it into an eloquent story. Her blog, A Southern Sleuth , takes stories of our ancestors and gives them new life, she’s incredible! I started by writing a post for Misses Miscellany titled My husband has cancer. I couldn’t think of anything worth writing to contribute to their site until Travis was diagnosed with cancer a third time, and as my life seemed to be surreal and spinning, I sat down and wrote down my thoughts. It came easy and I sent it off quickly not knowing if they would use it. It was amazingly therapeutic to write, it helped me organize my thoughts and feelings, and I really enjoyed writing it. They posted it and to my surprise it seemed to resonate with a lot of people. It took me months before I submitted another post, in part because I put a lot of pressure on myself to write something grandiose, which I never accomplished, but after Travis gave me a subject and my Mom helped me be less intimidated, I finally wrote something I felt good enough to share (StacyGuiding Our Children Through Trials). In the months in-between posts I wrote 9 other beginnings to posts, and since it is very therapeutic to write them down I decided I will finish them and share here!

So, here I start a site for myself. I hope something I say at sometime may reach someone who needs to feel less alone in supporting a spouse while they fight or inspire someone in their own fight, but really I write this for me and my family as we fight cancer and the world one day at a time!

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